How do you keep yourself from not being affected by their mood swings?
Understanding the source of the moods may help. It all depends on how we look at things. It’s pointless to blame others for what we are feeling. If we are reacting to their mood swings, it’s up to us to recognize this and let our (unreasonable) expectations go. Work with “what is.” A healthy level of non-attachment may allow your relationship to deepen instead of shrinking it with a controlling energy that is unhealthy for both of you.
“Love” that is based on what we want or like is a reaction. It’s not real in itself. This is what I call “human love,” it’s based on circumstances. Circumstances will change as people grow. Relationships that are based on “human love” are fragile at best. The conditions we prefer are like a “bucket,” which holds the “milk” of love, patience, and joy we share. With every change life brings, a potential leak occurs in this bucket, which causes drama, fear or suffering, and strains our ability to support each other. This is why most relationships do not last.
At some point we have to decide if we are married to the conditions we prefer, or to supporting the higher essence of our partner; their conscience. The changes we face offer new opportunities for growth, and help us refine our understanding of love. How we respond to changes in each other defines our love. Sometimes a partnership will begin as a conditional one, but the pair develops a deeper bond by overcoming obstacles together. If one focuses on the higher essence of their partner they may find a more lasting way to love & support them, raising the level of the relationship toward a more unconditional, divine form of love. This is a more clear expression of the Love each of us receives from God, what I call divine love.
Mood swings may be a symptom of inner struggle or the result of over-indulgence of the senses. Either way they are on the surface of ones being.
If person A is reacting negatively toward person B, or is angered or resentful or intolerant of changes B is going through, this could be a good time to sit down and look at what is really trying to happen in this relationship. Is each person allowing the other the freedom needed to continue living a healthy expansive life?
Mood swings that are directed at another are not cool. But mood swings that a loved one is dealing with but not directing at you personally, or blaming you for, are something you might choose to accept.
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