At what point, does someway say, “Okay… it’s finally time to start looking out for my spiritual well-being” even if they know it could mean a severing of the “old ways”?
Our spiritual well-being should always be first. What good can come from sacrificing your own spirituality? Your spiritual well-being directly affects your relationship. Just be as honest as you can about how you define your spiritual well-being. Sometimes we desire something that is different than what we have, when the greatest opportunity and what we actually need, is right under our nose.
Repeating here: Your spiritual well-being (growth) is the first need of your heart and the purpose of life. It is always time to take care of this, always.
The purpose of all life is the refinement of awareness. At the human level it gets interesting because we have the ability to make radical choices and change directions unlike other species. Growth is why we are here. We can accelerate or prolong it, but we cannot escape it. There is a great lesson plan waiting for all of us in our karma.
The main teaching overall seems to be about perfecting our love. What it is, where it comes from, and how to share it with all, is a direction we all are moving in. Our experience of love is directly related to our level of awareness. Our movement is fueled by our search for joy. We can deny it for some time, but the call in our heart will never release us until we are free.
I believe that the more we perfect our love, the deeper will our experience of joy be. We are made of love. We are rays of love shining from the heart of God into every niche of life. If we would allow God’s love to shine freely through the channels of our hearts we would know everything there is to know.
Look for opportunities to expand your willingness to accept others as they are, and to love them deeply without attachment. See those relationships you have now and pray that God help you release your attachments to the ones you love, so that your love and service for them can be even more pure than it is already.
In the act of loving we find fulfillment. Why ever stop then? Even when things do need to change or we are forced to make decisions that are difficult for others or ourselves, there is no reason to stop loving anyone.
I hope this helps answer the question posed above. Do what you feel is right. Do not be a reaction, but instead make your choices with calm intuition. Try to do what is truly best (not what is easy, or accepted as normal) for all concerned. Nothing in life is separate from your spiritual path, nothing.
Finally, if you have a partner who is antagonistic toward your spirituality or your psychological well-being, that is trying to stop you and mocks your chosen path; why on earth would you stay with them? What good could come out of this kind of relationship?
These are my honest opinions based on the questions that were posted. I always look forward to your comments and questions. Your input will help to define the direction of these posts.